It’s sad, divorce happens every day. What started in love, ends in hate. It takes a toll on both of that union.
What really hurts is when one part of that union tells the other, I have used our child against you, I have kept our child from you. The party being told that already knows, without being told, for they have lived with that hurt.
Then the day comes, with the birth of a grandchild. The person that used their own child now uses the grandchild to inflict more hurt and mental pain. It happens every day. In North Carolina, the grandparent has little or no rights.
The laws have to be changed. The only way they will change is for the powers that be to open up their eyes and see what this does to the family unit as a whole.
I ask not for myself, but for all grandparents. Change these laws. Until you have a grandchild, and that child is kept from you, you will never know what that hurt is like. People will say, how can you miss something that you have never known? Ask a blind person that question, for they long to see the blue sky, they would give anything to see a sunset or the sunrise.
My grandchild is almost 6 years old and I have never seen as much as a picture of the child.
I did not get to see her in her cradle, I did not get to hold her as a baby. I never saw her take her first steps, I never saw her fall but get back up and do it again.
I did not get to pick her up and comfort her and tell her it would be all right.
I think about her every day. I love my grandchild that I will never get to see.